Every coach works differently, and every coaching relationship has
its own character, so I think it is important to explain a little
about what coaching means to me and how I work.
We live in a world with a lot of noise. We talk constantly,
communicate quickly and are surrounded by opinions, advice and
information. And yet, despite all of that, it can still feel
surprisingly rare to be properly listened to. Rarer still to feel
genuinely heard.
For me, coaching creates the space to step outside of that noise. It
gives you the opportunity to speak openly, to think out loud, to be
listened to carefully and without judgement, and perhaps most
importantly, to hear yourself clearly, for the very first time.
That matters because when life is busy, demanding or emotionally
complicated, our own thinking can become crowded. Ambition,
responsibility, expectation, fear and possibility can all become
tangled together. Coaching creates the space to slow that thinking
down, make sense of it and begin to see what is really going on.
The way I was trained to coach is very coachee-led. I believe the
person I am working with should do far more talking than I do, and
that the conversation should always come back to their own thinking,
instincts, values and psychology.
I do not see coaching as consulting, and I do not believe my role is
to tell someone what to do. I will offer a perspective or advice if
it is genuinely useful or if I am asked, but much more often my role
is to listen, notice, question, reflect and sometimes gently
challenge the way a situation is being understood.
My role is to create the conditions in which that work can happen: a
warm, measured and completely non-judgemental space where you can
think honestly, make connections, recognise patterns and find your
own way forward.
Coaching will sometimes involve looking backwards in order to
understand what has shaped you, but I am naturally future-focused. I
am interested in forward movement, possibility and what comes next.
Even in difficult situations, I believe the coaching conversation can
help create greater clarity, agency and a sense that there is a
positive way forward.